Let us start by saying Individuals make up teams and organisations. Individuals have to be as valuable to the organisation, as the tasks they do are. Being valued is one of the top five motivators, which is no surprise considering it is a core relational need and often relates to the more intimate feeling of being “loved” in a work appropriate way.
Leadership occurs every day in a number of ways across a number of settings. It is easy to think that being a manager or in a position of power creates automatic leadership skills. Unfortunately, it doesn't. Just like giving someone a good car doesn't make them a good driver or having a child doesn't make a person an effective parent.
Control is a way to manage anxiety, a way to project our internal anxieties into external settings such as work and relationships. This includes micromanagement, rejecting difference, wanting guarantees, over-explaining, over planning, struggling to be present, struggling to let things unfold and so on.